You thought he was the one. You thought you’d grow old with him. As it turned out, he’s just another example of love gone wrong. Another man who failed to live up to his potential. Another man who came on strong and abandoned you. Another man who seemed great at the beginning but revealed over time that he’s actually broken.
It’s not easy to acknowledge that failure is the default setting in relationships. In other words, unless you’re married, every relationship you’ve ever had eventually broke up. After so many bad experiences – whether it’s ghosting, cheating, or simply falling out of love – it’s easy to lose faith that anything will ever work. But that’s why it’s so essential to learn from the past, reframe your situation, and learn to make different choices in the future.
Sure, it sucks when you get your heart broken, again and again. But dating a series of wrong men is an essential part of the journey to finding the right one.
Keep reading to learn how to get over someone who broke your heart and learn to attract a quality man who will love you unconditionally.
I invite you to think of the last time you were emotionally invested in a man.
It could have been a promising prospect you met online, it could have been your boyfriend of five months, it could have been your fiancé.
The common denominator is that this man, who took your breath away and gave you hope, ultimately left you.
Because you weren’t the one who ended things, your feelings remained as strong after you were dumped as they were before you were dumped.
I know how it feels. Most people do. You stake your dreams on the integrity of your relationship, only to find out that he had eyes for someone else, that he had major issues with you, or that he wasn’t ready to commit to you.
This can be devastating. It can make you mistrustful. It can make you lose faith. It can stop you from dating entirely.
But the hardest part is how, far too often, you never quite get over him.
Because you weren’t the one who ended things, your feelings remained as strong after you were dumped as they were before you were dumped. It makes perfect sense. He might have broken up with you, but that doesn’t mean you love him any less.